When a celebrity dies, it’s hard to know how to process grief. Even if we didn’t know the person in real life, we often feel connected because of their work and look for a way to express our sadness.
Of late, many researchers have been looking into the phenomenon known as “parasocial mourning,” paying particular attention to the way people mourn celebrities on social media. Action star Vin Diesel is just one example of someone using his celebrity to help fans mourn.
Vin Diesel’s Facebook page, which launched in 2009, has since become one of the top three celebrity pages on Facebook. His frequent posts, which are mostly geared to his fans, feature visual material such as photos and videos of not only his public appearances but also his personal life. He’s more transparent that one might expect from a celebrity, and it’s not unusual to see members of his family featured on his page.
In 2013, Diesel’s friend and Fast and Furious franchise co-star Paul Walker was killed in a high-speed car crash. The shocking and sudden death was especially tragic because Walker, 40, left behind a young teenage daughter. Walker was beloved by his friends and Fast and Furious costars who were very close knit, so it wasn’t surprising that they mourned publicly. A song was even commissioned in Walker’s honor for his last film, Furious 7, which was released in 2015. Many celebrities took to social media, especially Twitter, to mourn Walker’s passing.
Vin Diesel soon became transparent in his mourning, using Facebook to share his grief and healing process. Immediately after the tragedy, he changed his cover photo to one that included his friend, and he posted an emotional tribute, quoting Scottish poet Thomas Campbell: “To live in the hearts we leave behind, is not to die.”
Vin Diesel’s posts about Walker were not limited to the time immediately following the actor’s death. Rather, he’s continued to put up emotional content, including personal photos. Through Facebook, he has given fans permission to mourn with him and found a meaningful way to keep his friend’s memory alive.
At Mountain View, we understand the power of technology in funerals, mourning and keeping alive the memories of lost loved ones. That’s why we offer online obituaries and tributes as well as Signature Services℠ such as internet webcasts and DVD memorial tributes. Call us at 253.948.9895 to learn more about how we can help you create a funeral service that honors the life your loved one lived.
Creating a memorial to a loved one who has died is an important process. It can be simple or elaborate, and often it is a beautiful, meaningful work of art. The most important thing a memorial can do is to tell the story of the life that was lived, creating a touchpoint for future generations to reflect and remember.
Long ago, people piled stones atop a gravesite to mark a person’s passing. Today, there are many types of memorials from which to choose.
- Cremation island: Set apart from the cemetery with distinctive landscaping, a personalized cremation island tells your loved one’s story through statuary, plaques and more. It’s a beautiful and distinctive way to honor a life well lived, and provides an ideal space to visit and remember.
- Benches: Memorial benches offer a space to rest as well as to reflect, and can be made to hold several urns. Personalized to fit your loved one’s style, the bench can be engraved with inscriptions and designed to reflect that person’s occupation, hobbies or interests. Benches are typically made of granite, come in different colors, and are set on a foundation of concrete so that they remain level over time.
- Monubenches: More personalized than a bench memorial, monubenches come in a variety of unique styles, shapes, and sizes. Imagine a bench with the back carved into a fish to memorialize an avid fisherman, or half the bench shaped into a majestic stag to memorialize a hunter. A monubench can be designed as a checkers game or a rocking chair, a cask of wine for a wine enthusiast, or an airplane for a pilot. The design is limited only by your imagination.
- Busts: Busts are statues depicting the people they honor, whether in a formal pose or captured doing something they loved.
- Flat memorials: Understated and elegant or ornate and personalized, flat memorials are a timeless option for memorializing a loved one. Typically made of granite, they can also feature a nameplate of bronze, steel or anodized aluminum, and can incorporate full-color photos or sketches.
- Pedestal: A pedestal can feature a statue of something the person loved, or it can be something functional such as a bird bath.
- Pedestal bench: By merging two memorial options — a bench and a pedestal — there is a place to sit as well as a focal point that reflects the life of the person you’re remembering.
- Private cremation estate: This is like a miniature mausoleum —perfect for those who want a special place for families to be together forever.
- Upright monuments: Large and decorative, these can be large headstones or statuary representing the life they’re commemorating.
- Posts: Simple and beautiful, a post is perfect for someone who was understated in life and preferred simple pleasures.
At Mountain View, we believe memorialization is an important part of celebrating the life of a loved one. That’s why we’re proud to offer a wide variety of personalized memorials to honor those who choose our property as their final resting place. Call 253.948.9895 to learn more.