Sending flowers after someone has died is a thoughtful gesture as well as a longstanding tradition. The right flowers are very meaningful and can be comforting to the bereaved family.
But is it possible to get it wrong when you’re sending funeral flowers? In a word, yes. The missteps people sometimes make include:
- Sending an inappropriate arrangement. Large standing sprays and showy arrangements are only appropriate if you’re a close friend or family member, or if you’re sending the arrangement on behalf of the company for which the person worked. If you’re an acquaintance or coworker, it’s best to stick with a vase arrangement, flowering plant or gift basket.
- Forgetting to send a card. It can be hard to know what to say when someone has lost a loved one. It’s important, though, to say something, even if it’s just a heartfelt, “I’m sorry for your loss” or “My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.”
- Thinking you can only send flowers to the funeral home. Funerals happen quickly after a death, and there are cases in which you might not even know about the funeral until after it has passed. However, this doesn’t mean you can’t still send flowers. They’ll be comforting to the family if you send them to the house after the service is over. In fact, flowers that come to the house are often more fully appreciated after the initial rush of attention is over. Feel free to think beyond cut flowers, perhaps sending a gift basket or a potted plant that can be enjoyed for years to come.
- Neglecting to think about the person you’re honoring. When you’re ordering flowers, never lose sight of the person whose memory you intend to honor. If you know the person’s favorite colors or flowers, incorporate those aspects into the arrangement. If you are familiar with favorite songs or poems, use a line or two in the card if it’s appropriate. The most comforting thing for a bereaved family is to know that people truly cared about their loved one.
- Using a florist unfamiliar with the funeral home. It can be tempting to order from a “big box” florist, but local florists who create and hand-deliver fresh arrangements are far preferable to corporations that ship from warehouses. Often, the funeral home will be able to point you in the right direction and may even be able to help you order the flowers.
At Mountain View, we understand the importance of choosing the right flowers to send to a funeral. We can help you choose the perfect arrangement, and we make it easy to order right from our website . Call 253.948.9895 to learn more.