Whether you are going through the process of funeral pre-planning or planning a funeral for a loved one, funeral services should reflect the life and beliefs of the person who has passed away. In some cases, rather than attempting to adhere to the traditions of a specific religion, that means keeping religion out of the ceremony. There are many ways to plan a funeral service without relying on religious ceremonies and rites. If you are planning a non-religious ceremony, this advice will help.
Use the Obituary
In some cases, the people who will attend the ceremony will not be surprised it does not have a religious element. However, if some members of the family expect a religious ceremony or if you think there could be confusion among the guests, use the obituary to share that the service will be humanist or otherwise non-religious. Not only does this help guests prepare, but it can also alleviate debate among family members and ensure people who want to send flowers or cards choose non-religious messaging in keeping with your wishes.
Create an Order of Service
Work with the funeral home to create an order of service for the gathering. Doing so will ensure that the funeral service runs smoothly and helps you identify decisions you need to make, such as choosing music and readings or inviting people to speak. Use the order of service to create a funeral program for the guests, being careful to credit all of the speakers and to identify all of the music and readings.
Consider a Theme
Some people give context and cohesion to funeral services by choosing a theme. You can opt for something as a simple as a celebration of life theme, in which people share memories rather than focusing on grief, or dedicating the service to volunteer work the deceased did. Highlighting the deceased’s favorite music, authors, or hobbies are other ways to use a theme to personalize the funeral service.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory, we are experienced in planning all types of funerals and are dedicated to helping you create the right ceremony for your loved one or yourself. For help with funeral pre-planning in Lakewood, Washington or to plan a funeral or burial service for a loved one, call (253) 584-0252.