People who have not attended funeral services in the past are often anxious about going to a ceremony, because they are worried they may make an inadvertent etiquette mistake. Increase your confidence about attending a funeral service by watching this video.
When you attend a viewing or wake at a funeral home or a funeral service, be sure to dress appropriately. Black or another dark color is usually the best choice, unless the family has specifically requested differently. You can send flowers to the funeral home to offer your condolences, or if the family prefers, you can make a donation in the name of the person who has passed to an organization they have specified.
At Mountain View Funeral Home , we are available to answer your questions about funeral planning and funeral services in Lakewood, Washington. When you need our services, please call (253) 584-0252.
If you are planning a loved one’s funeral and you have chosen cremation , there are a number of subsequent decisions you will need to make. Your funeral home will always be happy to walk you through the process and help you make the right choices for you and your family. As you are making plans, ask yourself these questions to help you narrow down your options.
Do I want a ceremony?
Some people want to have a traditional viewing and funeral service alongside cremation, while others prefer to simply have the cremation performed without an additional ceremony. Cremation does not limit your options for ceremonies in any way, so the choice is entirely a personal one. Another choice some families make is to have a memorial ceremony after the cremation, instead of having a viewing and funeral. You can combine options in any way that feels appropriate to you, with the help of your funeral home.
How will I handle the remains?
After cremation, there are many things you can do with the ashes. If you choose cemetery cremation, you can keep the ashes in a family vault or mausoleum, in an urn garden, or within a structure such as a bench or boulder with a marker. You may also choose to keep the ashes in an urn at home or even to have some of the ashes made into jewelry. It is also possible for loved ones to divide the ashes into different urns for multiple people to keep.
How do I discuss the decision to cremate a loved one?
Occasionally, family members may have different opinions about what a loved one would have wanted, or they may have objections to cremation on a religious basis. Don’t let the cremation come as a surprise to any close family members. Instead, as the decision maker, share your reasons for choosing cremation and invite loved ones to share in other aspects of the planning process.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, we offer a variety of options for cremation in Lakewood, Washington, including funeral services and cemetery cremation . To get answers to your questions about our services, please call (253) 584-0252.
Funeral planning is always a difficult and emotional process. When you’re faced with making major decision in the midst of shock and grief, making a mistake is easy. As you navigate the process of planning a funeral, try to avoid these common mistakes so you don’t have regrets in the future.
Making Decisions Solely Based on Cost
Funerals are significant financial investments, and your budget matters. However, too many families make choices during funeral planning based only on prices. Instead of automatically choosing the lowest price for everything, talk to your funeral home about your budget and your vision for the funeral, and let them help you create a service that is within your budget but that is also the kind of tribute you want for your loved one.
Not Planning a Reception
A reception after a funeral may sound like an extra expense and responsibility that you simply don’t want to bear. However, receptions can be an important part of the healing process for your loved ones. It gives you an opportunity to come together and remember the person who has passed away in a less formal setting than the funeral service, and it creates a place for family and friends to comfort each other. If you skip this important funeral ritual, you may come to regret it in the future.
Not Exploring Grief Services
Don’t overlook the full scope of services your funeral home provides, including grief support services. Find out what kinds of support is available and how you can access it as part of the planning process, so you know where to turn when you need it.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, our staff understands how difficult planning a funeral can be, and we are here to offer compassionate and caring support throughout the entire process. When a loved one passes away near Lakewood, Washington, please call our funeral home at (253) 584-0252 for assistance.
Cremation services are available to help your family memorialize your loved one. Many families choose to inter the cremated remains in a memorial park. If this option doesn’t feel appropriate for your family or if your loved one specifically requested a scattering ceremony, there are many thoughtful ways to arrange this. Casting, trenching, and raking are all respectful ways to return cremated remains to nature.
Casting is the type of ceremony that typically comes to mind when one thinks of scattering ceremonies. It involves casting the ashes into the wind, over the ground, or over a body of water. Casting may be done from atop a mountain, on level ground, at the shore’s edge, on a boat, or even from an airplane. If your loved one had an adventurous spirit, you might even consider arranging to have the cremated remains launched into space, although you would not be present at the moment this would occur. Casting has roots in many ancient civilizations. It was ritually performed by the ancient Romans and Greeks. Casting is still performed as part of the Hindu rites, in which a loved one’s cremated remains are cast over the sacred Ganges River. Like other cremation ceremonies, casting can be personalized to reflect the life of your loved one. Choose a location that was near and dear to your loved one’s heart. You might choose to scatter the remains in multiple locations. Check local ordinances first; scattering is restricted in some areas.
A trenching ceremony involves interring the cremated remains in a long, narrow, shallow trench and covering the remains with soil. Trenching may be done in a location that was meaningful to your loved one, provided local ordinances allow it. Like casting, trenching has roots in the ancient Roman and Grecian civilizations.
Raking is similar to trenching, although it does not involve burying the remains. Instead, the cremated remains are gently incorporated into the topmost layer of soil. Raking may be a good choice for deceased loved ones who enjoyed gardening or being in nature. The cremated remains will support the plants that grow there. You may wish to plant a tree or scatter wildflower seeds in the ground.
Mountain View Funeral Home provides thoughtful funeral planning services in Lakewood, Washington. Our cremation services include interment in our memorial park. Please call (253) 584-0252 to speak with a funeral director.
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