Cremation services are highly versatile. They can be customized to suit the needs of each family. One way to honor the memory of a loved one is to choose a cremation urn that fits his or her unique personality. Some families prefer classic, elegant cremation urns that will be interred in a memorial park or kept closer to the family.
Other families prefer more personalized designs, as you will learn when you watch this video. This video displays a range of cremation urns, from whimsical designs to beautiful scattering urns. Your family also has the option to choose a companion urn for spouses, keepsake urns for different family members, and keepsake jewelry.
Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park, and Crematory can help you design unique cremation services in Lakewood, Washington. If you need to pre-plan a funeral or you need to arrange cremation services for a lost loved one, you can call us at (253) 584-0252.
In recognition of National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, those of us at Mountain View Memorial Park want to acknowledge Sherry Shultz , Chaplain and Manager of Volunteer Services of Fransiscan Hospice and Palliative Care for her accomplishments. Sherry has worked in the hospice profession for 18 years, and worked as an occupational therapist for several mental health agencies in the past. After becoming Development Director for Hospice and Home Care of Snohomish County, she pursued a theological education at Seattle University to further her hospice career. Sherry reveals some inspiring insights in an interview:
Sherry describes an emotional experience that deeply impacted her being with her husband when he passed away. She claims that this event gave her awareness of how much control people have over their lives and how much they need support. She says that the death of a loved one “really tests your limits” and that she had to rely on her personal faith throughout that time. Sherry also recalls the death of her mother, another heart-wrenching experience. Her experience with loss helps her relate to the patients she works with.
Sherry views every bit of care she provides as holy, whether it is a bath or a medical consultation. Her realization of the importance of her work motivates her to keep going and do the best that she can. She explains that every person’s contribution is important to those who need care.
Advice to Others
Sherry says integrity is the key to forming and maintaining great relationships with patients and families. It helps form a deep, meaningful relationship. She also explains the importance of being a good listener, something she learned over time. She claims that it is okay to not have all the answers-sometimes silence is the best answer. Lastly, Sherry encourages future caregivers to develop skills consistent with their calls, whether it be in the medical field, spiritual care, or as a volunteer.
To learn more about Sherry or hospice and palliative care, visit our website to read the full interview.
After a death in the family, arranging funeral services is a difficult process for the survivors. They may disagree about what the decedent might have wanted or they may simply feel too overwhelmed by grief to focus on the details. Pre-planning your own funeral will spare your loved ones the burden of making the final arrangements. Funeral pre-planning also lets you choose the exact services you prefer.
There are a few major decisions you’ll have to make when pre-planning, such as whether you prefer to be buried or cremated, but a comprehensive pre-need plan also includes the smaller details. For example, it can be helpful to your survivors for you to create a list of people to notify after your death. Of course, your loved ones will know that they ought to notify the close relatives, but they might forget about your old Army buddies, choir friends, or book club members. Be sure to include contact information after each name.
Writing an obituary is particularly difficult after a death. Your loved ones won’t want to leave any important details out, but it’s difficult to think clearly in the midst of grief. If you wish, you could decide to write most of the obituary for them. They’ll still need to fill in details, such as the date of the funeral and which family members have survived or predeceased you.
If there is a particular charity or cause that you hold dear, you may wish to make a note of it. Your loved ones can request that charitable donations be made in your name in lieu of flowers.
There may be a few personal touches that you want to add to the funeral service. Perhaps you would like a particular song be played or your favorite flowers displayed. The funeral director will help you include any personal details you wish in your pre-need plan.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park, and Crematory , we provide comprehensive funeral planning services in Lakewood, Washington, including funeral pre-planning support. We invite you to take a stroll around our memorial park, visit our funeral home, and learn about our cremation services before you make your decisions. If you have any questions, give us a call at (253) 584-0252.
When a loved one dies, wardrobe choices are usually not a high priority. However, choosing the proper clothing before going to the funeral home is essential. Wearing conservative, somber clothing shows your respect for the decedent and your fellow mourners. When it’s time to say a final goodbye, there are certain things you should avoid wearing. Never attend funeral services wearing excessively revealing clothing such as a mini skirt or tank top. Avoid casual clothing like T-shirts, jeans, and sweatshirts. Similarly, avoid casual shoes like flip flops.
It isn’t necessary to wear an all-black outfit. However, you should avoid wearing bright, flashy colors and “busy” patterns. Choose somber, dark clothing in shades of brown, gray, black, or dark blue.
Families who need to arrange funeral services in the Lakewood, Washington area can turn to Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park, and Crematory. Call us at (253) 584-0252 and let our compassionate staff help you plan a respectful and unique funeral ceremony that honors your loved one.
When a friend is grieving, he or she will need your emotional support more than ever before, yet it’s difficult to know exactly how to support someone who has suffered a loss. This is because everyone grieves in a unique way; some mourners may need to talk about their loved one to keep the memories alive, while others may be unable to bear hearing the loved one’s name. During the funeral services and for years to come, showing your friend that you care will help him or her cope with the loss.
Conversing with Your Friend
Sometimes, people keep their distance from grieving friends for fear of saying the wrong thing. It’s best to avoid saying anything that might be taken the wrong way, such as any statements that begin with “You should” or “You will.” Similarly, avoid giving statements like the following:
- “Your loved one is in a better place.”
- “I know how you feel.”
- “It’s time to move on.”
- “It’s all part of the universal plan.”
Your friend needs to hear simple words of comfort that do not imply judgment, such as, “I’m truly sorry for your loss,” and “I’m here for you.” Take your cue from your grieving friend. If he or she wants to discuss the decedent or the manner of death, go along with the conversation and let your friend do most of the talking. If not, perhaps your friend simply needs you to sit in silence with him or her.
Offering Practical Assistance
It’s common for friends of mourners to say, “Let me know what I can do to help you.” While this may be appreciated, a mourner won’t necessarily accept the offer. Instead, be specific in your offers of assistance. Offer to accompany your friend to the funeral home to make the arrangements, walk the dog, provide childcare, or organize the reception.
Checking in Regularly
Make a note on your calendar of difficult days for your friend such as the decedent’s birthday. Check in with your friend on these days and throughout the year. Long after the funeral, your friend will need your support .
Grief counseling is available in Lakewood, Washington for all those who have lost someone dear to them. Visit the website of Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park, and Crematory to access our online grief support services any time of the day or night. If it’s time to make final arrangements or discuss funeral pre-planning, you can call a funeral director at (253) 584-0252.
Since it is National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, Mountain View Memorial Park wishes to acknowledge Julie Hartman , Bereavement Counselor at MultiCare Home Health, Hospice and Palliative Care. Julie started as a hospice intern for MultiCare, and has since worked for the same agency for 4 years. Julie’s passion for her work is apparent in her interview:
Julie’s journey into the hospice field almost seems like a fluke, but she believes “nothing happens by chance”. In the past she cared for her own grandmother at the end of her life. This experience along with other losses inspired her to try working in hospice. She joined the team as an intern, learned from incredible people, and fit perfectly in the role.
Julie has dealt with countless emotions since she’s worked in the hospice field. She says the most powerful emotion she has experienced is the reality that a loved one could be gone in an instant at any moment. She strives to find the balance between debilitating fear and making the most of every moment. Over time, she has also learned how to navigate the feelings of sympathy without letting them consume her.
Julie states her greatest challenge is talking about death, grief, and healing in a culture that does not accept this part of life or the pain associated with it. She helps people understand that it is normal to grieve and cry when a loved one dies. She stresses the fact that grief takes time and requires people to face the pain in order to heal.
To learn more about Julie, visit our website.