Despite their desire to show support to friends and family members who have suffered a loss, attending a funeral is stressful for many people, who feel like they don’t understand funeral etiquette. Fortunately, it is easier than you may think to be respectful and offer support at funeral services . These tips will help.
Unless the family has specifically requested another style of dress, black is a safe color choice to wear to a funeral. Navy, gray, brown, and other subdued colors can also be appropriate. When you are selecting clothing, choose something modest, similar to what you may wear to a job interview. In some cases, the family may ask everyone to wear a certain type of clothing as a way to commemorate the deceased. This information is typically available from the funeral home.
During funeral services, pay attention to the speakers and avoid chatting. It is common to see people you haven’t seen recently at a funeral, and many people take this opportunity to come together as a chance to catch up. You will have an opportunity to do this before and after the service as well as at the post-funeral gathering, where sharing memories and laughter is appropriate. Funeral services themselves are solemn and should be approached as such.
For many people, this is the hardest part of attending a funeral. Keep in mind that the family and friends of the deceased will be grateful for your offers of sympathy, so don’t put undue pressure on yourself. Short, simple phrases such as “I’m so sorry for your loss” or “He/she will be missed” are acceptable for offering condolences. If you have a longer time to speak to the family, consider sharing an anecdote about the deceased that they may not know.
Mountain View Funeral Home, Crematory, and Memorial Park is available to answer questions funeral guests may have about services at our funeral home in Lakewood , Washington. Call us at (253) 584-0252 when you need more information about funeral pre-planning, tribute videos, cremation services, or related services.