Being asked to be a pallbearer is an honor. As a pallbearer, you should arrive at the funeral service at least 30 minutes to an hour early for the ceremony. You’ll receive special instructions regarding where you should sit, when you should stand up with the rest of the pallbearers, and how you should escort your loved one to his or her final resting place.
You can hear more about executing this special honor by watching this video. You’ll learn the details of using the handles on the casket to lift your loved one and you’ll hear how you may receive a special pin to identify you as a pallbearer.
Families throughout the Tacoma area can rely on Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory to provide respectful funeral, cremation, and burial services for their loved ones. You can call our funeral home at (253) 584-0252 or visit our website to learn more.
Cremation and burial within a cemetery are both respectful ways of saying your final goodbye to your loved one. When the time comes to make a decision, there are a number of factors you can consider to guide your choice. You may wish to speak with the professional at the funeral home regarding factors such as your options for cemetery burial and cremation memorialization.
Consider whether your loved one may have specified a preference for either cremation or burial. For example, some people prefer burial because it is a natural way to integrate the body with the earth, while others are uncomfortable with the idea of being buried. Check with your family members and your loved one’s friends, and ask whether your loved one expressed a preference for either of these options. You can also contact your loved one’s estate lawyer or executor to determine if your loved one expressed his or her final wishes.
Religious and Cultural Beliefs
For many families, the overriding factor in choosing between cremation and burial is the loved one’s religious beliefs or cultural background. Many religions set forth specific guidelines for saying goodbye to loved ones. If your loved one did not specify a personal preference regarding this choice, it’s usually best to abide by his or her religious or spiritual beliefs.
When a loved one was not religious or was comfortable deviating from tradition, you may wish to consider environmental factors when making the decision. Many people choose cremation because it does not require the use of land or embalming fluid.
Regardless of your decision, know that there are customizable options available to help you honor your loved one. For example, if you choose burial, you could select a biodegradable casket. If you choose cremation, you and your family could establish a permanent memorial to your loved one to serve as a gathering place.
Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory offers a funeral service preplanning guide to help you make pre-arrangements for your burial or cremation. If you do choose cremation, our funeral home offers a number of respectful options for permanent memorials and gathering places for families. You can call our funeral home in Tacoma at (253) 584-0252 with any questions you may have.
The only person who can tell you how you will work through the grieving process is yourself. After a loss, each mourner works through grief in a different way and what helps one person may not necessarily help you. However, you may need to experiment with multiple coping mechanisms to find one that you feel comfortable with. Even if you do not think a support group may be right for you, it may be wise to attend a meeting and then decide. Bear in mind that if you don’t feel comfortable talking to others at the first meeting, there is no need to. You can tell others that you aren’t comfortable sharing your story at this time and that you’d rather listen during your first meeting.
If you decide to continue attending meetings, you may find that a grief support group offers many benefits. Long after the funeral service and cremation or burial, you may find comfort in sharing your memories of your loved one, and discussing your fears and other feelings of loss. At a grief support group, you’ll find non-judgmental individuals who truly understand what you’re dealing with.
Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory offers 24/7 grief support services to members of the Tacoma community and beyond. You can explore our funeral home , memorial park, and cemetery on our website or call us at (253) 584-0252 to speak with a caring representative.
Different religions and cultures have different ways of honoring the lives of those who have passed on. Even among members of the same religion, including Judaism, one can find different beliefs and traditions. However, there are some basic tenets that are common among different traditions. For example, according to the Jewish faith, burial at the cemetery should take place within 24 hours. In modern times, this is generally more flexible as it may take distant family members some time to travel to the funeral home or cemetery.
Greeting the Mourners
If you’ve previously been to a funeral service, you may be expecting to greet the family members and offer condolences before the ceremony begins. However, for a Jewish funeral, this is generally delayed until after the burial at the cemetery. Family members typically wait in a separate room as the other mourners arrive. They will take their seats just before the start of the service.
Tearing the Garments
Keriah, or tearing, is traditional at Jewish funerals . A black ribbon may be placed on the outer garments of the mourners to symbolize this. Some Orthodox Jewish families may still follow the practice of tearing a garment of clothing. Keriah symbolizes the tear of the fabric of the family following a loss and it serves as a physical manifestation of grief.
Conducting the Funeral Service
Once everyone is seated at the funeral service, prayers are read and a eulogy is delivered. The officiant may deliver the eulogy, which is written to combine the memories of the lost loved one from the family members. Or, family members and close friends may share their memories directly. After a final prayer is read, the family members may return to a separate room to await the funeral procession to the cemetery.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory, we can help you design a funeral service and cremation or burial as unique as your loved one’s life. Our funeral home offers services that pay proper homage to religious traditions from all walks of life. Families in the Tacoma area can connect with our memorial park by calling (253) 584-0252 or by visiting our website.
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