Illness is a part of the human experience. But because of its sensitive nature, terminal illness can be an especially difficult subject to broach with young children. At Mountain View Funeral Home and Memorial Park , we have some tips to offer you that help you discuss terminal illness with your children.
Recognize That Children Are Aware of Serious Illness
Many adults are hesitant to bright up the subject of terminal illness with their children, fearing that the conversation could frighten them. But many children, even those in elementary school, already know about death and serious illness. They know it from television shows, fairy tales, and even the classroom.
Discuss the Meaning of Terminal
With modern medical technology, “terminal” no longer means that death is imminent. In fact, many people diagnosed with a serious illness today may be able to live months or years longer than someone with the same disease decades ago. But with that comes a new type of grief, where the terminal patient and his or her family needs to live with the side effects of treatment, and the uncertainty about his or her long-term health. According to a number of interviews conducted by clinical psychologist Dr. Joe Nowinski, children who grow up with a parent with a terminal diagnosis admit years later that they could have handled more information than they were provided. Many of these adults said the lack of information they were given as a child actually created more anxiety for them.
Encourage Emotional Expression and Questions
No matter the age of your children, provide a space for them to express their feelings and ask questions. In your responses, it’s okay to respond with “I don’t know” if you truly do not know. Use simple language instead of complex medical terms to help your child understand.
If you are dealing with a terminal illness in your family, contact Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory. In addition to providing 24/7 online grief support services , we can help you with pre-arrangements in Tacoma. For more information, visit our website or call us at (253) 584-0252.
When talking to a child about death, it’s important to tailor the discussion to the child’s age. For children that are six years old and younger, use words that they can understand. Use plain language such as “his body was done living,” and avoid using euphemisms such as “she died in her sleep,” as this can confuse and even worry children. Creating a memory book is a great activity to help children understand death and mourning. Watch the video clip for more tips on helping children understand the concept of death.
Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory, one of the leading funeral homes in Tacoma , understands that death is a difficult topic for many parents and children. Visit our website to access our 24/7 online grief support and to learn about our pre-arrangements and memorial park in Tacoma. For more information, call us at (253) 584-0252.
Grieving is a process that takes a substantial amount of mental, emotional, and physical energy. During the grieving process it’s common to feel completely worn out, which can make daily life that much harder. At Mountain View Funeral Home we want to offer you the following tips with the hope that it helps you along the grieving process.
Pay Attention to Your Emotions
People experience different symptoms when grieving. The symptoms you experience will help you determine the best course of action. Of the most common emotional symptoms, you may experience sadness, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. Many people who are grieving also feel guilt, regret, anger, disappointment, and numbness. People who are grieving may feel fear, anxiety, and panic at some point as well. Identifying and expressing these feelings can be helpful in helping you move through them, instead of being stuck in them. Consider writing in a journal or sharing your feelings with a friend, relative, or counselor.
Be Aware of Mental and Cognitive Effects of Grieving
During the grieving process it is normal to experience difficulty concentrating or focusing on a task. To feel confusion or a short attention span is also typical. If you are processing facts and details inaccurately, or if you are experiencing forgetfulness, be as patient as you can; these symptoms often disappear with time. Avoid making major life decisions until you feel more mental clarity.
Take Care of Your Body
The physical symptoms of grieving can be debilitating. If you sleep excessively and still feel exhausted, just know that this is normal. If you experience aches, pains, illnesses, or changes in appetite, it’s essential to take good care of yourself. Take hot baths, get a soothing massage, eat balanced meals, and get plenty of rest. See a medically trained professional if your physical symptoms persist.
At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory, we want you to feel supported through the grieving process. Our memorial park in Tacoma offers 24/7 online grief and support services. Visit our website for more information, and call us at (253) 584-0252 for more information.
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Many people are choosing cremation rather than a traditional burial service when planning their funeral or their loved one’s funeral. At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory, we recognize the wide-ranging needs of families who seek to honor their late loved ones. This is why we have 120 acres of beautiful land dedicated to our cemetery grounds and cremation gardens. We have many options for you if you choose cremation as a disposition option, but still want a memorial. Our private cremation estates give your family a space to reflect. With running water flowing through the center, our Valley Rose Urn Garden is a tranquil place where many families have chosen to place memorials, such as pedestals, mausoleum glass front niches, cremation boulders, cremation benches, and cenotaphs.
To learn more about the options you have for funeral planning and cremation in Tacoma , visit Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory’s website. To make an appointment or to speak with one of our friendly and knowledgeable funeral service counselors, call us at (253) 584-0252.