How to Support a Teenager When a Close Friend Dies

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Death is a natural part of life, but losing a close friend is still devastating. This is particularly true when the deceased is a young person, and his friends must confront death in a much more immediate way. Being a teenager is hard enough on its own, and losing a friend and peer is an extremely difficult experience. While nothing can bring the deceased back to life, you can support your teenager by being there for him before, during, and after the funeral service. Keep reading to learn how to support a teenager when a close friend dies.

Be Available

Grief in teenagers may look a bit different than grief in adults, and it’s important to remember that this is completely normal. Your teenager may have questions about his friend’s death, or may stay silent about the matter. Make sure you spend plenty of time at home so that you are there if your teenager needs you for answers or simply support when he is feeling low. You can ask your teenager questions to find out how he is feeling, but be respectful of his wishes if he asks for time alone. You should also be aware of any signs of preoccupation with the death if your teenager does not seem to move through his grief.

Be Understanding

Losing a close friend is an extremely painful experience no matter how old you are, and going through this during formative teenage years can sometimes intensify this pain. Listen to your teen when he asks for help, and do your best to continue the conversation instead of suggesting that he find a solution for his grief. You may want to find out if his school offers counseling services, or talk with other parents to arrange a time where you and your kids can talk and listen together. Everyone grieves differently, so it’s your job to be there for comfort and understanding when you are needed.

With a history that dates back to 1915, Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory is proud to offer tasteful, respectful, and beautiful funeral services to all of our clients in the Tacoma area. Call us at (253) 584-0252 to experience the attentive, personalized service that you and your family deserve in your time of grief.

A Guide to Choosing Funeral Music

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A funeral can be a time of sadness, but it is also a time to celebrate the life journey of your recently deceased loved one. Planning a funeral can take a bit of work, which may be difficult when you are grieving. That’s why it’s important to choose a reputable funeral home that will help you every step of the way, from pre-planning to burial and a reception after the service. A funeral home may also be able to give you suggestions on appropriate music to play during the funeral. Read on for a brief guide to choosing funeral music.

Songs to Play

There is a lot of music to choose from when you are planning a funeral, and the best way to start is to think about songs that the deceased enjoyed when he was alive. You may want to select a few of his favorite songs, and include selections such as what was played during his wedding or a number by his favorite musical act. Ask friends and family members for recommendations and memories, as different people may have different recollections of what he liked. If the deceased was religious, you might want to include a few hymns . You can also choose songs that convey funeral-appropriate themes such as love, loss, and celebration of life.

Playing the Music

As you are preparing for the funeral, you should talk to your consultant at the funeral home to find out how you’ll be able to play music during the service. You could make a mixed CD of all the songs you want to include, or bring an mp3 player with a playlist of all the songs you want. If someone close to the family is a musician, you can also consider asking him to play during the service. A musician can play a single selection during the service, or provide music at the beginning and end as mourners are arriving and leaving.

At Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory in Tacoma, we realize that you have many choices to make when you are dealing with the death of a loved one. Contact us at (253) 584-0252 to find out more about the services we provide. We’ll help make the funeral process as easy on you as possible.

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Tips for Writing a Meaningful Funeral Thank-You Card

After the loss of a loved one, it can be difficult to keep your responsibilities in mind. Watch this video to learn how to write a meaningful thank-you card to those who have supported you in your time of grief.

Funeral thank-you cards should be personalized and handwritten to the recipient. As you sit down to write the card, take a moment to remember how this person was involved in the life of the deceased, or the role she played in recent times. The card doesn’t have to be long, but should be a genuine expression of gratitude for her help during a difficult time. The sooner you can write the card after the funeral, the better, but take your time and do it when you feel comfortable

Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory is here to assist you in your time of grief when a loved one passes away. Call our Tacoma-area funeral home at (253) 584-0252 to learn more about the services we can provide for you and your family. 

Moments Like These Are Why We Do What We Do: Missing Tacoma airman returns home after nearly 45 years – KING5.com

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SeaTac, Wash. — It was a homecoming at SeaTac Airport fit for a hero, and one his family feared would never happen. In 1969, U.S. Air force pilot, Captain Douglas Ferguson, was considered missing in action. The military and his sister never stopped looking for him. 

Like any trip to the airport, waiting is just part of the experience. However, flight that brings Sue Scott to SeaTac Airport, is one that is long overdue.  

“On one hand you’re excited that he’s coming home,” said Scott. “In some ways I smile because there is a sense of peace, and right now there is some grief as well.” 

Sue hasn’t been waiting minutes, hours or even days. 

“I thought I would see him again at first for a long time, when I thought how could this have happened,” said Scott. 

Scott’s brother, U.S. Air force pilot captain Douglas Ferguson left his Tacoma home to fight in the Vietnam War but never returned after his plane was shot down over laos in 1969.  

After nearly 45 years, the wait is over.  Captain Douglas Ferguson is finally home. He received a hero’s welcome with the presence of the Honor Guard, a water cannon salute from the Port of Seattle Fire Department, and a flag presentation. 

“It was more than I could have imagined,” said Scott. “It was just beautiful and i think it honored him in such a noble way.”

Not everyone at the ceremony got to meet Douglas Ferguson, but Sue Scott’s mission has been that no one forgets him. 

“At that time I said to myself I cannot live my life, raising my young sons without looking for my brother,” said Scott. “That’s when I made the commitment to bring him home one way or another.”

Ferguson’s remains were recovered at the crash site in Laos. The U.S military Central Identification Lab in Hawaii helped identify his remains. Ferguson will be laid to rest at Mountain View Memorial Park in Lakewood, near his parents.

His sister says he received a silver star for extracting two pilots under enemy fire. 

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