Understanding the Importance of Funerals

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Like most people, you probably don’t think much about your own funeral. While a funeral may not seem very important for the deceased, it is vitally important for the friends and family members left behind. By preplanning your funeral with Mountain View Funeral Home, you can help ease your loved ones’ grief after your passing. Here’s a brief look at why funerals are so important.

Accepting Reality

After hearing of a loved one’s passing, it’s common for a person to suffer from shock. Some people have trouble believing that a loved one has passed away. A funeral is important because it helps attendees accept the loss of their loved one, which is the first step in the grieving process.  

Confronting Emotions

Many survivors of loss grieve by putting up strong defenses. While there is no wrong way to grieve, refusing to express one’s emotions is generally regarded as unhealthy. A funeral offers survivors an opportunity to gather and grieve with others who are experiencing similar emotions. For many, this is an important part of moving forward.   

Building Support

When a close friend or family member passes away, it’s common to feel absolutely devastated. A funeral not only provides acquaintances with an opportunity to grieve ; it’s the perfect time to offer support to those who were closest to the deceased. Flowers, gifts, and kind words can help remind the grieving that they’re not alone.  

Finding Closure

During a typical funeral or memorial service, friends and family members share their favorite memories of the deceased and put a cap on their loved one’s life. A funeral can also provide spiritual closure for the faithful. A funeral may not put an end to grieving, but it can help launch the recovery process.

To learn more about why funerals are important, call Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory at (253) 584-0252. We’ve been helping friends and family members find peace for over 93 years. Visit our Tacoma-area funeral home to find out how we can help you get through the grieving process.

Strategies for Dealing with Grief After a Sudden Death

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Losing a loved one is difficult under any circumstances. However, losing an otherwise healthy person to a sudden illness or accident can be particularly devastating. Many people have a difficult time accepting the loss of a loved one and become overwhelmed with grief. If you suffer the sudden loss of a dear friend or family member, let these suggestions help you find a way to move forward .   

Get Help with Funeral Arrangements

In the hours after you learn of your loved one’s passing, you may find yourself in a state of shock or disbelief. If you’re the next of kin, it may be up to you to make the funeral arrangements despite your emotional state. To take some of the pressure off, consider having a friend or family member help you make the funeral arrangements. You’ll find that the funeral or memorial service itself can help you and others find closure and move on. 

Take as Much Time as You Need

Grief affects everyone in a different way. Some people are ready to move on after a month, while others take years. You shouldn’t feel like you need to “get over” your loss on anyone’s schedule but your own. If you must return to work soon after the funeral, try to make time for meditation, prayer, or another activity that helps you relax.

Find People to Talk To

It can be difficult to accept the death of a loved one if you keep your feelings to yourself. For help moving past your grief, consider speaking with friends or family members who are also affected by the sudden loss. If you find it particularly difficult to get over the pain, reach out to a grief counselor or another mental health professional.

Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory has plenty of resources to help you address your grief and find a way to move on. To make your own passing easier for your loved ones, consider making funeral or cremation pre-arrangements. You can visit our website or call our Tacoma-area funeral home at (253) 584-0252 if you have any questions. 

Parks Appreciation Day

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Please save the date so you can join us at the City of Lakewood’s 13th annual Parks Appreciation Day celebration, Saturday, April 26, 2014. We are planning projects at several Lakewood park sites. Join us between the hours of 9:00 a.m. and noon as we participate in the county­wide Parks Appreciation Day and jointly celebrate Earth Day, Arbor Day and National Parks Week.

You should dress appropriately for the weather; bring clearly-labeled hand tools from home (including such things as pruners, gloves, rakes, shovels, small pitch forks) and your enthusiasm, smiles and energy! This is a FUN event in the outdoors and you’ll be able to help prepare our local parks for the busy spring/summer seasons.

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Projects this year include:

Fort Steilacoom Park —  removing scotch broom. This is not a particularly exciting or fun project, but it is critically important as we prepare for the 2015 US Open Golf Tournament. We need more volunteers than ever before to help us remove this invasive plant

Also at FSP,  volunteers will be tasked to help with restoration of historic cemetery markers and cemetery clean up.

At the FSP playground  we’ll be finishing up some restoration work and we need volunteers to wrap of the final tasks on Park Appreciation Day.

      American Lake Park —  the swimming area will be cleaned up by the West Pierce Fire and Rescue Dive Team, and volunteers will help remove the underwater materials they find. General clean up of the beach sand will be included in this park project.

       Wards Lake Park— trail maintenance and sign installation.

If a community/church group is interested in a specific park site and can provide the number of volunteers adequate to take on a project, the City’s Parks, Recreation and Community Services Department will coordinate with them directly to develop site specific projects to spread chips under playground equipment. The City will provide the chips and some gardening tools for these groups. Firm commitment by volunteers would be necessary for these individual group projects.

Join us on Saturday, April 26, 2014, at 9:00 am. To register your family, service organization or your school or church groups, please call Suzi at 253-983-7758. We’ll find a spot for you and will appreciate your help.

Surprising Facts About Grieving

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Everyone grieves at some point in their life. Losing a loved one is a tough but necessary part of life; unfortunately, this fact isn’t enough to make the healing process any easier. Still, you can cope with your grief by learning about the grieving process and finding new ways to bring joy into your life. Here are a few facts about grieving that you may not have realized:  

Grieving Is Not a Steady Process

Many think of grief as a rigid process that gradually gets better over time. While there is some truth to this, the path from denial to acceptance is not a straight line. You may find that you don’t experience grief until after the funeral service. As you mourn the loss of a loved one, you’ll likely experience a range of emotions until you reach an emotional equilibrium.

Humor Can Help Lift Your Spirits

Many find it difficult to laugh and smile in the months after losing a loved one . However, those who let themselves laugh tend to have an easier time during the grieving process. A 2008 study from California State University found that 75% of bereaved individuals over 50 manage to find joy in their daily lives. Instead of focusing on the tragedy of your loved one’s passing, try to focus on the fun times you had together.

Grief Doesn’t Last Forever

Many have trouble imagining life without a lost loved one. It’s difficult to see how life can get better when you’re mired in grief. However, people have an amazing ability to adapt, even in spite of themselves. The idea that “grief lasts forever” isn’t exactly true—though you may feel the sting of loss every once in a while, you’ll find that your anxiety and depression will dissipate over time.

For help getting through a recent loss, contact Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory . In addition to funeral and cremation services, we offer healing and grieving services to Tacoma-area residents. Call (253) 584-0252 to find out how we can help you get through this difficult time. 

A Brief Look at Our Keepsake Memorial Gifts

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After a loved one passes, you might find it difficult to enjoy many of your favorite activities. As you grieve your lost loved one, one of the only things that can give you solace is the idea that your loved one is at peace. To remind yourself of your loved one and all the precious moments you shared, you might consider a keepsake memorial gift from Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory.

We offer keepsakes that can hang on the wall, sit on your counter, or sit in your garden. We even offer soft, huggable keepsakes for children. Many of our keepsakes feature crosses, angels, and other religious imagery to help remind you that your loved one is in a better place. We also offer a special keepsake for the loved ones of deceased U.S. military personnel.

Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory can help you and your family get through the most difficult times. Call our Tacoma-area funeral home at (253) 584-0252 to set up an appointment with one of our compassionate staff members. 

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