Grief is a highly personal process that every individual experiences following the death of a loved one. Since the feelings associated with grief before, during, and after a funeral can be so intense and unlike any other life experience, many psychologists and academics have studied it extensively. To read about five myths that have been disproven as a result of some of this research, check out this article.
Grief is another word for mourning. Grief and mourning are often used synonymously. While the two processes are related, grief is what takes place internally, while mourning is the outward expression of one’s emotions following the death of a loved one.
People experience grief in the same way. Attempts have been made to categorize the feelings and emotions experienced when grieving the loss of a loved one, but these attempts are broad generalizations that have resulted in expectations for the grieving process that cannot be realized by everyone.
Grief should not be given much attention. There is a common misconception that the best way to deal with the death of a loved one is to think about the loss as little as possible. Phrases like “life goes on” and “move on with your life” are often used to encourage people who are not yet ready to heal.
Tears should be kept to a minimum. Many people try to discourage those who are grieving the loss of a loved one from crying, often claiming that the loved one would not want them to cry. Research has shown that crying has health benefits, and that tears can actually help people to cope with their emotions.
Ultimately, everyone gets over the loss of a loved one. Not everyone gets over the loss of a loved one. In fact, many people continue to grieve the loss of someone they have loved and known for the rest of their life. They learn to live without their loved ones, but do not necessarily “get over” the loss.
If you are concerned that the feelings of grief you are experiencing following the loss of a loved one are unconventional, it is important to remember that grief is a highly personal experience. To help remove as much stress and pain from the funeral planning process as possible, work with a dedicated and experienced funeral director . For funeral assistance in the Tacoma area, call Mountain View Funeral Home, Memorial Park & Crematory at (253) 584-0252